Kelly Rothwell

Kelly Rothwell
Much Loved Sister, Daughter, Friend

Thursday, May 19, 2011

A Mother's Pain, A Daughter Lost...

The boxes of Kelly’s things still sit in the back room; she tried to open them and got through two before she broke down and had to walk away. The car was still being held as evidence when Nancy came to Florida last week. It was time, she said. It was time to get up, put one foot in front of the other, to keep walking and breathing and eating, when every fiber of her being told her to crawl back into bed and wait for the nightmare to be over. It was time to realize that the nightmare was real, the pain so intense it physically hurt. It was time to wake up and fight.
For Nancy Rothwell, this kind of thing is not easy for her. She is a kind and quiet woman, petite and blue eyed, shy and unassuming. She has a serene smile but her eyes are intense and flash when she thinks about her daughter Kelly and what might have happened to her.

“When I met Dave Perry, Kelly had brought him home to Nottingham. I knew that he treated her to nice trips and nice things. I could tell that money was no object for him when it came to her.  They certainly didn’t live poorly. But I could also see that he was the controlling type. It worried me, but Kelly was always such a private person and I think she really was in love with him.”

Nancy said she always supported Kelly in the things she did.

“She was always like a free spirit, she loved life and she danced through it. She turned a love of crystals and rocks into a Geology degree from Essex Community College. She was always collecting rocks on hikes she would go on. She has several of the large geodes; those large rocks, cut in half that have the crystals growing right inside them. She said they made her feel connected to the Earth. She loved the mountains and nature.”

Kelly moved out to Colorado with her boyfriend Sean and she was in heaven there. She loved the beauty and wide open spaces. Even though her relationship with Sean faded, she still loved the open country and she stayed there for a while, eventually getting her Masters degree in Management. She met and married a man named Doug, but he seemed indifferent and distant. The marriage didn’t last.

Kelly moved to Florida and worked with the Hilton Hotel organization for several years. Then she met a man from New York named David Perry while he was on vacation. He swept her off her feet; he bought her flowers and presents. He moved into her condo less than a month later. He gave her the attention she hadn’t gotten with Doug. She liked it.
“I think he would cook for her and iron her clothes,” Nancy said. “She thought that was wonderful, that he paid such close attention to her.”
Nancy’s eyes narrow and a look of pain crosses her face. Could she have seen the signs?  
“All the time he was doing things for her, he was controlling her little by little. I don’t think she saw it at first. I think she thought it was wonderful to have a man do so many nice things for her. He kept the house clean, he cooked and did laundry. He laid out her clothes for work. They went out to dinner. She seemed happy with him.”

But underneath, something dark was brewing, coming to the surface. Kelly’s twin sisters Lauren and Lindsay both saw some darkness in Perry. They noticed he was quick to anger and seemed to have a real mean streak. But Kelly never told any family members about any trouble she might have been having with him; as Nancy said, Kelly was a very private person.
The week before she disappeared Nancy found out that Kelly had enrolled in the St. Petersburg Police Academy. By then Kelly was almost through with her training and was due to graduate the following month.
“That came as a total surprise to me,” Nancy says. “She had told Lauren about it on the phone. She sounded so excited about it. I wondered what he (Perry) thought about it but figured they had worked it out and that he was ok with it.”

Even though they didn’t speak all the time, Nancy and Kelly stayed connected via email.

“Every day I would email her something positive, a ‘thought for the day’, just to let her know I was thinking about her. She didn’t always respond, but I just thought that she was really busy. I think now that I think back on it, he probably checked her emails. I don’t think he told her when I wrote her…”
During that time, Kelly and Lauren had a short falling out and Nancy feels now that maybe Perry probably got in the way, telling Kelly to just stay away from her family and the drama.

But Lauren and Kelly found a common ground and seemed to be in a better place the week before Kelly went missing.

“I heard in the beginning, Dave thought the Police Academy was a good idea for Kelly, but that towards the end of the training he wanted her to quit. He tried to convince her to take a job in Utah, in Human Resources,” Nancy says. “They were actually scheduled to fly out there the week after she went missing. But Kelly wouldn’t have taken a job that far away from her friends and her family. I think it was his idea to get her away from all of us, so he could keep control over her.”

Nancy thinks that with the Police Academy, Kelly had finally found her voice.

“Kelly was always interested in domestic violence issues and I think she felt that she could really help in that area of police work. She was always a very peaceful person and I’m sure she would have been really good at it...”

Nancy’s voice trails off, the pain evident as she thinks of what might have been.

When Nancy arrived in Florida the week after Kelly went missing, she went to the condo to clear out Kelly’s belongings when it became increasingly clear that Kelly wasn’t coming back.

“I picked up her clothes and books. I looked around the condo. It was just too neat, the kitchen too perfect. The towels in the linen closet were blue and white; they were lined up by color and folded perfectly. I looked inside the kitchen cabinets and my heart just sank. They were lined up everything so neatly, cans lined up all together, boxed things together, it was all too perfect. That’s when it hit me that that this man was such a control freak that he probably hurt my daughter, because she was becoming her own person. She was moving away from him and towards something good for her. It was very hard for me to see that and realize that Kelly had to live with this.”

As Nancy gathered her missing daughter’s belongings she noticed something... Sitting there on a table were the invitations to the Police Academy graduation, a month away.

“She had invitations all ready to send us,” Nancy says sadly.


  1. My eyes just filled up with tears! How awful, how terribly awful. What Mrs. Rothwell had to endure, her heart breaking even more as she gathered up Kelly's belongings. My God! I Pray to God that no other parent has to go through something like this. Although, I know will happen time and time again, I still Pray that it won't ever happen again.

    My heart and soul Prays all the time for the Rothwell family that they find some kind of peace with this all and hopefully closure to which they so desperately need. I Pray for CUE and to all that are involved in the search of Kelly that they finally find her and bring her home. I Pray for my sister Donna that she finds peace within herself over the loss of her beautiful friend. I Pray for Leigh and the friendship she has found with everyone involved and that she can keep finding the words to write about our beloved Kelly.

    Most of all, I Pray for Kelly Rothwell! The one person who has touched so many hearts with her beautiful ways, that we BRING KELLY HOME!

    Leigh, this was a beautiful story and very well written. I don't know how you do it but you are a very strong woman to be able to interview and write about this terrible tragedy. God Bless You Leigh!

    In Light and Love!

  2. Very well written, but so sad, my heart goes out to Nancy and her family~

  3. Every time I read this I cry...I am so sorry Nancy and everyone in the Rothwell one should have to go through this..

  4. Great job Leigh

  5. I can not even imagine how difficult that must have been for Nancy. I admire her strength and her courage.

  6. Great article as always. However I have a couple of questions. Were plane tickets actually purchased for the trip to Utah? If so, what date were they purchased and by whom? According to a Largo Patch article dated March 19, 2011, Kelly was to interview with the Pinellas and Largo police departments that week. So why would she even think of going to Utah? Something sounds very fishy. Was the Utah trip planned by someone to create a diversion to throw the investigators off once Kelly disappeared? Also, I would like to know the date Kelly got the invitations to send to her family and friends. Were the invitations still blank---or did she fill them out and have them ready to mail? It seems odd that the invitations were left in plain view on a table. It seems to me that the person responsible for her disappearance left the invitations there deliberately to send a message. Obviously that person did not want her to become a law enforcement officer.

  7. Mrs. Rothwell told me that David had tried to push her to interview in Utah, probably for the reasons I wrote about above. As far as she knew,he had tried to convince her to interview for a Human Resources job. Not aware of tickets. As to the invitations, Mrs. Rothwell was NOT specific about whether they were filled out.
    Kelly WAS going to interview with both/either Pinellas Park or Largo PD. I wrote the article you are referencing. That info came straight from Police Academy Director John Dressback, in an interview I did with him on or about March 18th.In it he stated that Kelly was a leader among her fellow cadets and that he had recommended her to both departments.
    Kelly went missing mid March; the graduation wasn't until April 13th, a month away. I don't know if she had addressed the invites to the event; perhaps not as it was almost a month away at that point.
    Mrs. Rothwell told me that at first David was OK with Kelly going to the Academy. But she had started at the Academy in November.It was after she began to see,via training videos,especially domestic violence issues,that she herself was in a toxic relationship. She tried several times to talk to him and then break up with him as well.He begged her to stay with him.
    It is my belief that as she grew stronger and began to hear her OWN voice, that he grew more and more panicked at the thought of losing her. He grew more obsessive and started checking up on her,texting her constantly and leaving her endless voice mails. I think he may have looked the job up in Utah himself and she may have said she would think about it in an effort to appease him in the short run. Could he have "planned " it for her? Maybe. Could it have been a diversion for when she went missing? Possibly. THAT of course would mean that if Perry DID murder her, it was a PREMEDITATED act of violence. It shows he had a plan. It shows he started to create a scenario of plausible deniability. She had been actively seeking a place to move to so she COULD leave him; it appears that was partly the holdup to her leaving him earlier. If he knew this somehow, then he would have tried to circumvent that outcome.Remember,he was obsessed and a control freak.Her leaving would have meant he had lost control of the situation.I'm sure to someone like him that was unthinkable.
    Again, I get this from several different interviews with friends,colleagues and family members.
    Some of it we will never know. Only one person knows the whole truth and he isn't talking.



David Perry mug shot